"The chair was seven years old," she said. "High time we got a new one."
I blinked. I almost said that the average age of my furniture was about 70 years, with nothing younger than a decade. Even the washing machine has passed its 27th birthday.
Suddenly I saw our house through her eyes. The kitchen needs painting, no longer pristine off-white but faintly yellowed in patches; the carpets are faded from sunlight and wear; the sofa and armchairs have comfortable hollows from decades of bottoms.
The house is frankly shabby, and so am I, both jeans and face showing my age, but we don't have any plans to repaint, redo the floors, update the cupboards and, though I will buy my annual new pair of jeans, they'll only be for 'work', that is, public talks until they grow shabby enough — and stretched and comfy enough — for home and garden too. Even the wombat is grey-haired and scarred about the nose these days (but I still like to read to him).
It's not from lack of money. There are also roughly 50 000 books — but unless a thief breaks in who has a passion for eucalypt identification or fungi there probably isn't anything they'd want to steal. Except the choc chip biscuits maybe, or the fruitcake, but I'd hate even a thief to go hungry. If they need the fruitcake they're welcome to it.
It's not that repainting is too much trouble, either. It's that we've learned to love the signs of age. The carpet may be less vivid than it was 30 years ago, but new patterns made by time and sunlight have emerged. I like the walls' dapples; the familiarity of Bryan's threadbare vest that was once a jumper till the last of the sleeves wore away beyond any hope of darning.
Poverty is not necessarily beautiful: it's good to have enough to be secure. But when you don't have much and still dream of beauty, good things emerge: houses built of the wood or stone or earth around you, instead of imported kit homes from China, fabrics dyed with leaves or bark, blankets knitted with the wool unravelled from the jumper the moths got into, outfits made by putting together clothes that have been loved and cared for over years or decades.
Darned socks are beautiful. Proper darning is an art, weaving the thread in and out instead of a knotty cobble.
Patchwork evolved from poverty.
The happiest kids I know are the ones who have least money spent on their entertainment (for which read: keeping the kids out of the adults' hair). Too many kids have never climbed a tree, made a cubby out of old sheets and slept in it in the backyard, made mud pies, scrabbled in the rag bag to make a tail for their kite, or rummaged through the 'don't fit anymore or need remaking' chest of old clothes to play dress ups, or spent a day making a complex of sandcastles or a sand fort to keep the waves away. (The tide always washes them away, but then kids see the beauty of the swept bare beach, and learn that creation can be transitory too.)
When I was a kid the best times were the annual repainting of the bicycles and tricycle, the steps and garden chairs. We were allowed to choose the colours. We pitied Elaine up the road who got a new bike, so wasn't allowed to sully its gleam with paint. And okay, the steps were a rainbow for about a decade, but houses need to belong to the kids who live there as well as the interior design dictates of the adults.
Too much money leads you to silly choices, the holiday on a Thai beach instead of a quiet mooch across the local sandhills, or along the river to the swimming hole.
Vegie gardens and back yard chooks used to be signs of poverty, as did growing enough tomatoes and plums to see you through the winter. But without them you lose the joy of the seasons. Bush furniture, made of twisty branches and slabs of fallen tree or old fruit boxes (which some of our furniture is) makes you look at the bend of the wood and the knotholes every time you look at it. You actually SEE recycled timber, the irregularities of collected rocks to make a wall or steps long after you have taken the blandness of the mass produced for granted. When was the last time you really looked at the houses in a housing estate? Why bother, when they are mostly the same?
We've got used to the blandness of the mass produced. For so many, there's no point living in the 'now' because now is mass produced. You want to shut out the streams of cars, the rectangled office blocks.
When did I decide I preferred water to wine, the silver essence of the earth instead of the grape? That I'd rather go home and eat a dish of baked veg with oil and lemon dressing than eat a restaurant meal of complicated flavours, one of which was probably preservative? When did I find out that the foods I love best are those of poverty-stricken peasants, food made good by centuries of expertise instead of expensive ingredients?
Cheese is a food of poverty, last autumn's grass preserved for winter and spring eating. So is butter, which used to be packed in kegs and kept in bogs to ferment and be eaten months — or even years — after it was made.
Flour is the way of preserving last year's grain so it won't sprout. My grandfather had bread and cheese for lunch in all the decades I knew him, and I find I'm doing the same, though I do sometimes vary it with bread and soup, or bread and ultra-fresh tomato and dressing with the bread to mop up the juices, or even a boiled egg scooped out on to bread.
My food heaven as a child was a box of assorted chocolates. Maybe now I've simply learned to taste, that the taste of bread changes as you chew it, so that your bread and cheese can have 1000 flavours and all of them good.